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Posted: Feb 16, 2011 - 4:11pm by Playboy TV
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Viewer Question:
I’m interested in the lifestyle and my wife is pretty adventurous so I think she would be, too. We’ve never talked about it. How can I ask my wife if she’s interested in swinging without looking like a total sleazebag?
Nicoleta & Scott’:
An interesting fact is that the majority (about 65%) of couples in the lifestyle are here because the wife or girlfriend brought it up, not the guy. For the guys who brought it up, it’s worked out fine when you follow a few guidelines...
First, ask yourself why she might be open to swinging? Are you watching the “Swing” series together, and if so how does she like it? If you’re not watching it together, why not? Is she highly sexual? Does she fantasize about other guys? Has she ever mentioned an interest in other girls? When you watch porn or other erotic movies together does she get turned on? Does she read erotica? How often does she masturbate? Does she have a voyeur or exhibitionist streak? Have you had detailed conversations about past lovers, and was she jealous in hearing your details or reticent in disclosing hers, or did the conversation titillate her? Is she comfortable with her sexuality individually, and with your sexuality as a couple?
Next, now that you’ve given some thought to things from her perspective and still think she'd be interested, look for an appropriate moment to initiate a conversation. Wait for a nice a trigger, such as her exclaiming how hot a scene on TV just was, or how great the sex with you just was, or after a particularly adventurous session involving role-playing or public sex or flashing, or when taking a walk and catching her peeking in someone’s window. If she feels secure and sexy, then start with the tried and true “have you ever thought of actually kissing another girl” or “what do you think of the Playboy series ‘Swing’ and the people on it?”
What will now happen, at a minimum, is your communication as a couple will get better than ever. If you can talk about sex, openly and frankly, then you’ll find you can talk about anything. She may not be open to swinging, or she might be, you’ll never know unless you ask (or unless she brings it up first!)
Kisses, Nicoleta & Scott (aka Kasidie)
Filed Under: Swing
Viewer Question: I’m interested in the lifestyle and my wife is pretty adventurous so I think she would be, too. We’ve never talked about it. How can I ask my wife if she’s interested in swinging without looking like a total sleazebag?
Nicoleta & Scott’:
An interesting fact is that the majority (about 65%) of couples in the lifestyle are here because the wife or girlfriend brought it up, not the guy. For the guys who brought it up, it’s worked out fine when you follow a few guidelines...
First, ask yourself why she might be open to swinging? Are you watching the “Swing” series together, and if so how does she like it? If you’re not watching it together, why not? Is she highly sexual? Does she fantasize about other guys? Has she ever mentioned an interest in other girls? When you watch porn or other erotic movies together does she get turned on? Does she read erotica? How often does she masturbate? Does she have a voyeur or exhibitionist streak? Have you had detailed conversations about past lovers, and was she jealous in hearing your details or reticent in disclosing hers, or did the conversation titillate her? Is she comfortable with her sexuality individually, and with your sexuality as a couple?
Next, now that you’ve given some thought to things from her perspective and still think she'd be interested, look for an appropriate moment to initiate a conversation. Wait for a nice a trigger, such as her exclaiming how hot a scene on TV just was, or how great the sex with you just was, or after a particularly adventurous session involving role-playing or public sex or flashing, or when taking a walk and catching her peeking in someone’s window. If she feels secure and sexy, then start with the tried and true “have you ever thought of actually kissing another girl” or “what do you think of the Playboy series ‘Swing’ and the people on it?”
What will now happen, at a minimum, is your communication as a couple will get better than ever. If you can talk about sex, openly and frankly, then you’ll find you can talk about anything. She may not be open to swinging, or she might be, you’ll never know unless you ask (or unless she brings it up first!)
Kisses, Nicoleta & Scott (aka Kasidie)
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